I am sad right now, crying a bit. The caseworker of our youngest just told me that they are planning on returning him to his birth mother. My heart is breaking. He as been with us his whole life, we were told that we would be able to adopt him when they ask us to take him. But that was 4 caseworkers ago and we have this one who is new and knows little about her job, she does not even have a degree in social work. I have a masters in social work.
I guess I should be happy that the mom is doing well enough to get him back. But I am not, I am heartbroken. I should be a better person some how to accept this better, but it is tearing me apart. He is 8 months old and in three months they will let him go back. He will practically be one.
I worry about him. He will have a much different life than his siblings, with his birth mother. I suppose he may end up with us again someday as his mother stability is questionable. But how unfair for him to have to bounce around. If he stayed here he could live a normal life, with two parents, with his siblings, with love and care and without neglect, or someone who will constantly put him in danger.
So heart breaking. I had faith, I really did. Now I am broken up, so angry and hurt. I love him so much, he is My Son.
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Tiffany, I am so sorry! For some reason, I thought you had already adopted him.
I hope everything works out for the best for him.
We will pray for him in China and as we travel. I am sure that the new case worker will not last and that a new one will come in and take over...He should stay there with his sisters and a stable home. If he goes back with here, he will find neglect and abuse, but he will survive and you should visit him often with his sisters, to assess for yourself his welfare there. Do it!
Tiffany, so sorry to hear that. It breaks my heart,too, for you. We will keep you and your family in our prayers.
I don't even know what to say...I love you and will keep you and your family in my prayers. xoxo
Tiffany, I am so sorry! I can't even imagine how heart wrenching that would be. You will be in my prayers.
I understiand. I am scared for that day with our little girl. I am sorry with you. I can only begin to understand the loss there. It brings the song written by Michael McClean "From Gods arms to my arms to yours" in mind. You are an amazing mother. Cherish the time you have - you have made a difference!
Oh, Tiffany - I didn't realize that the adoption wasn't final yet with Tyler! I know what a devastating loss this is to you, and I'm so sorry for the pain you're going through. I hope God will be able to touch his birth mother and help her to become the kind of mother that Tyler deserves. If not, God knows where to find you!
Don't loose your faith. We have a family in our ward that has a little girl named "Joy" who has been with them for 18 months since she was born.
The cousin of the birth father wanted custody and there was a Social worker who was on the cousins side to give them custody.
Well, that SW got fired and they have a new one and she is for the adoptive family totally. Sooo look how things can change.
This family has so much faith.
Even when things looked bleak they said to themselves, "We are not going to give up our faith. We will continue to trust in the Lord."
So don't be surprised that he comes back to you at some point in time.
Tiffany...
I am so so sorry that you and your family are forced to go through such a difficult situation, I cannot even imagine how hard it must be. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
I am so sorry! I wish I knew what to say. I will be thinking of you and your family.
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